Swaybars hands down for handling. Get UUC or Racing Dynamics for about $350 per set, I think. Don't buy Dinan, as they sell rebadged and overpriced Eibachs.
Power wise, you won;t get much more than sound increase from the intake and exhaust, so you can buy those later on.
And bring to the track or AutoX to really have fun with your car. Do it once and you'll be hooked for life - trust me on this one.