So far, I haven't experienced the problem that some people attribute to drive-by-wire. It's funny, because my B5.5 Passat is also DBW, and a lot of people on VWVortex complain about the same problem with the DBW throttle (no CDV), but I never experienced the problem on that car, either.
In any case, based on feel, the only time I notice the effect of the CDV is on the first to second shift (and very rarely, second to third). I don't seem to notice it in bumper-to-bumper traffic where you're staying in first and just constanlty going in and out with the clutch. At exactly which point does your Dad feel the problem? My interpretation of the CDV problem is on that 1st to 2nd shift where you would normaly smoothly release the clutch and match revs--it's kind of like the car is trying to smooth out the clutch release for you, so if you do it, you end up not being able to sense the clutch take-up-point, and the rev-matching sucks--and you get a jerky shift. I've found that by giving the car a touch more throttle than I would otherwise and letting the clutch up a bit faster than I would otherwise, the shift is smooth--but it doesn't seem natural. Since you say you can shift more smoothly than others in your family, I wonder if the problem is really the throttle.
David